Marriage is More Than a Contract, It’s a Covenant
Day 1 - Jul 6, 2020
Marriage is a Covenant, but our society treats marriage like a Contract.
You may be thinking, "What's the difference and is it really that important". Let me explain these two different ways of thinking.
In the Bible, the word covenant means “to cut.” Every time a covenant was made, it involved blood. In Luke 22:20, Jesus said, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which is poured out for you.” Adam and Eve had a marriage covenant, too. God removed Adam’s rib to create Eve to be his wife. In other words, a covenant requires sacrifice.
In our marriage vows, we promise “for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health” because we are making a permanent, sacrificial covenant. We roll up our sleeves and commit to the relationship with everything we have. We go all-in!
Day 2 - Jul 7, 2020
Our culture has begun to devalue marriage and has turned it from a covenant into a simple contract. A sacrificial covenant says, “I surrender my rights and assume responsibilities.”
A contract takes the opposite approach: “I protect my rights and limit my responsibilities.” That means some people are entering marriage with one foot already out the door. Many have the mindset of, "I'm in this marriage until the feelings fade, or until the pressure builds past my comfort level".
Marriage simply doesn’t work that way. It only works as a Covenant, with two spouses committed to sacrificing for each other and doing whatever it takes to succeed. Without this commitment, every significant problem becomes a threat to the marriage.
Day 3 - Jul 8, 2020
When you enter marriage with a covenant mentality, there is no question that you’re staying.
- You’re in it “for better or for worse.”
- Your first thoughts are for your spouse.
- You lay down your rights and assume responsibilities.
The secret to a lasting marriage is how you view it. Do you see your marriage as a covenant or a contract? Be honest with yourself!
Day 4 - Jul 9, 2020
When Mandy and I first got married, we genuinely loved each other but weren't fully equipped on how to build a healthy marriage. It was all brand new... especially for Mandy since she never lived in the same home with her mom and dad. They divorced when she was six months old.
Understanding how to navigate through disagreements in our marriage was the beginning of the journey. We lived under the false assumption that if we were truly in love, we shouldn't have problems. Especially any big problems. Mandy and I want to encourage you, and other couples going through the same misconceptions.
Day 5 - Jul 10, 2020
In a Covenan relationship, you’re in full agreement that whatever is mine is yours and whatever is yours is mine.
- Your focus should never be on what you can get out of the relationship.
In a Covenant relationship, the mindset is always on the other person first.