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How to Keep Falling in Love

Day 1 - Jul 5, 2021

Soulmates are not born. They’re made.

That’s a fact that may discourage people who think marriage should be easy, but it’s the truth. God created marriage to succeed. But that success requires us to put energy into it.  In other words, you have to work at marriage. As an example, let’s talk about emotions.

One misconception about marriage is that the emotions will always be there. If you’re truly in love, then you’ll always feel “in love.” The truth is that you’ll go through times when the emotions don’t exist. Sometimes emotions change. When this happens, couples worry that something’s wrong. Maybe they married the wrong person, but emotions come and go, and emotions can be unpredictable.

Basing your marriage relationship on a feeling can be a big problem.

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If you’re struggling to find that “In Love” feeling...look at your spouse through the eyes of Jesus and remember...your spouse is a son of our Heavenly Father, or she is a daughter of our Heavenly Father.

Let God’s compassion begin to pull you back into the passion of being “In Love” with your spouse.

  • Perspective changes things.

Day 2 - Jul 6, 2021

Have you ever noticed that many of the most beautiful and talented people in the world fall in love, get divorced, fall in love, get divorced, and keep repeating the cycle?

That’s because they are basing love on their feelings. When feelings change, they change spouses. That’s the wrong approach to love and marriage.

The Bible says the best kind of love in the world is not love based on emotion, but love based on choice. This is called agape love. It’s the kind of love God has for us and it's unconditional.  

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We are all imperfect!  

Reflect on God’s amazing mercy & forgiveness that He pours out on us daily. God’s love is unconditional And we're to be like Him.

Now ask yourself; are you judging or forgiving?

  • Are you looking at your spouse by the world’s standards or through God’s example to us?  

Day 3 - Jul 7, 2021

You don’t always know what your emotions are going to feel like tomorrow, but your always in control of your will.  Your decision to love your spouse is a decision of your will. Regardless of how you feel or what your spouse does, you can make the decision to love them.

Choose to do your best to be faithful and love as Jesus would. That’s a decision that has nothing to do with your circumstance or emotions. That’s agape love—love by choice.

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Take any of the faults or shortcomings you see in your spouse, and pray about your focus, then lay them aside.

  • You need to value what is truly important in your spouse.
  • Choose to love your spouse.  
  • Now show that love by serving your spouse in some small way before the day ends.  

Day 4 - Jul 8, 2021

You’ve heard the saying “the grass is always greener on the other side.” I like to add to that saying: When the grass looks greener on the other side, it’s time to water your own yard. (Another version: If the grass is always greener on the other side, then it’s AstroTurf. It’s not real, it’s fake!)

In other words, everybody and everything looks good from a distance. Real people have real issues. Once you live with a person for awhile, you begin to see their issues. This is what causes emotions to change—and every couple experiences this at some point. How will you feel about me when the good times end and the good feelings waver?

Take Action

Does your grass, or marriage, have weeds in it?

Do you give more attention and care to your yard than you do your marriage?

Pluck the weeds out and replace it with nurturing care that will produce a lush, healthy, life. Are you giving your marriage the care it needs to produce life, or are you ignoring it and allowing weeds and dryness to stifle it?  

  • Be a lifegiver today to your spouse. They need you and you need them.

Ask your spouse out on a date that is something you both enjoy doing.  

Day 5 - Jul 9, 2021

My best friends are the people who see all the dry, unwatered grass in my life and still love me anyway. 

The best couples are the ones that push past the hard times and still choose to love one another.  Mandy & I have been together a long time. We’ve seen everything about each other— all the rough edges and all the dirt—and we’re still together. That’s what love is. 

Take Action

Ask God to show you any “weeds” you’ve allowed in with negativity.  Do one thing today that you know will be a boost of life to your spouse. 

  • It could be as simple as changing the way you might normally respond.  
  • Do your best to be patient, pleasant, and respond in a positive way.