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How to Take Your Marriage to Another Level - Part 2

Day 2 - Nov 11, 2025

The Timing of Naging

Every nagging word drags you further from connection and closeness.  When we nag, it’s often tied to timing. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”  Knowing when to bring up concerns can make all the difference in how our message is received.

A survey found that 60% of nagging occurs during stressful times, such as after a long day at work or during family gatherings. Timing plays a crucial role in how effective our communication is.

Nagging during stressful moments can escalate tensions and lead to defensiveness, making it harder for couples to work together. This can create a cycle of frustration, where both spouses feel overwhelmed and disconnected, hindering the love and unity we are called to nurture in our marriages.



Take Action

Let's Start by Being Honest with Ourselves:

  • Are there specific times or situations when I tend to nag my spouse?
  • How can I choose a better time to discuss important issues?
  • How does my timing affect our communication and connection?

Plan a time to discuss a concern with your spouse when both of you are relaxed. Approach the conversation with love and understanding.  Stan and I suggest addressing it with a loving touch and eye to eye contact.  This helps you weight out your words before sharing them.  

Day 5 - Nov 15, 2024

Time for a Quick Self-Examination

This week may have brought its challenges, and now is the perfect time for some self-reflection.

Ask yourselves:

  • Are you committed to your marriage for the long haul?

Viewing your marriage as an owner rather than a renter means actively engaging in addressing any issues that arise. A recent study found that couples who invest time and effort into their relationship are 50% more likely to report higher satisfaction levels. This commitment involves rolling up your sleeves, counting the cost, and working through difficulties together.



Take Action

Remember: You don’t have to face problems alone. Seeking help is a strength, not a weakness. Here are some steps you can take:

  1. Reach out to a trusted friend or pastor for guidance.
  2. Find a supportive church that offers resources for couples.
  3. Explore books or video teachings that address specific issues in your marriage.
  4. Consider seeing a marriage counselor if needed.

Reflective Questions for Engagement:

To deepen your connection and enhance communication, discuss the following questions:

  • What specific steps can we take together to strengthen our communication?
  • How can we create a safe space to discuss our feelings without fear of judgment?
  • What past challenges have we overcome together, and what did we learn from those experiences?
  • In what ways can we be more intentional about investing in our relationship?

Don’t let pride hold you back from improving your marriage. Taking proactive steps can lead to a deeper connection and a more fulfilling relationship. Embrace the journey together!