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Training Your Mouth for Your Marriage
Day 5 - Sep 12, 2025
We live in a world that can be vulgar, sarcastic, and even verbally hateful.
If you communicate in the same way to your spouse, it will be challenging to foster a healthy marriage until you make a change.
Remember when you first fell in love? You spoke good things to each other, sharing life and encouragement. Marriages begin to fail when negative, hurtful words start to replace those life-giving messages.
Words do not evaporate; they have consequences. There’s no neutral ground when it comes to language. Good wordsbring about positive results, while bad words lead to harm.
Sometimes, people justify their hurtful remarks by saying, “I didn’t mean it,” or “You don’t know my heart.” Yet, in Matthew 12, Jesus teaches that "the mouth speaks out of the abundance of the heart." This means the nature of our words reflects the condition of our hearts.
A heart filled with hate and unforgiveness produces hurtful language. Often, the source of pain may not come directly from your spouse, yet the hurt can be unintentionally dumped onto them.
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A mean heart generates mean words, while a heart filled with love produces loving messages. A pure heart brings forth pure expressions.
We need to be careful with our words and take responsibility for what we say—especially in marriage.
Reflect on this:
- What words have you spoken this week that you need to own up to?
- Make a conscious effort to speak words of life and encouragement over your spouse.
- Your words have the power to build up or tear down, so choose to uplift!
Day 5 - Sep 13, 2024
There are 5 Things that Can Kill Intimacy in a Marriage:
5. Selfishness. The worst marriage in the world is one made of two selfish people.
The secret of fulfillment in marriage is a couple who is committed to serving one another in love. It's an attitude that says, "I'm not happy until you're happy." God created us to love and serve one another. That's who we are.
A marriage marked by intimacy is one in which a husband and wife are so integrated into each other's lives that they are almost indistinguishable.
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Is your marriage marked by true intimacy, from the inside out? Are any of these 5 factors inhibiting the intimacy in your marriage?
- Lack of Spiritual Dependence
- Rejection of Differences
- Distraction
- Unresolved Conflict
- Selfishness
Examine your relationship, talk about these issues with each other, and pursue marriage God's way. When you do it His way, your marriage has a 100 percent chance of success.