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Cultivating Love & Igniting Passion

Day 1 - Feb 2, 2026

Make no mistake: Satan hates marriage, and every couple will face spiritual challenges.

However, the key is to choose the right battles and fight in the right way for your relationship. Remember, your true enemy is not your spouse, but the forces that seek to undermine your union.

Understanding Anger in Marriage

Anger can be detrimental to your marriage. Research shows that unresolved anger can lead to increased conflict, decreased intimacy, and even emotional detachment. A study from the University of Utah found that couples who frequently engage in hostile interactions are more likely to experience divorce. Conversely, couples who manage anger effectively can enhance their relationship satisfaction and longevity.

Key Questions to Reflect On:

  • How do I typically respond when I feel angry or frustrated in my marriage?
  • What triggers my anger, and how can I communicate these triggers to my spouse?
  • Am I listening to my spouse’s feelings, or am I focused on being right?

The Positive Impact of Effective Anger Management:

When couples skillfully manage anger, they can experience significant benefits:

  • Increased Intimacy: A study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that couples who communicate effectively during conflicts report higher levels of emotional and physical intimacy.
  • Stronger Commitment: Research indicates that couples who resolve conflicts positively are more likely to stay committed, with a 50% increase in satisfaction over time.


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The Positive Impact of Effective Anger Management

When couples skillfully manage anger, they can experience significant benefits:

  • Increased Intimacy: A study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that couples who communicate effectively during conflicts report higher levels of emotional and physical intimacy.
  • Stronger Commitment: Research indicates that couples who resolve conflicts positively are more likely to stay committed, with a 50% increase in satisfaction over time.

By choosing to confront anger in a constructive way, you not only protect your marriage from spiritual attacks but also strengthen your bond. Remember, the goal is to foster an environment where both partners feel heard, valued, and loved. Prioritizing peace and cooperation can lead to a richer, more fulfilling relationship.

  • De-escalate Emotions: When tensions rise, strive to remain calm. If your spouse is angry, resist the urge to respond with anger. Instead, practice patience. Allow them to express their feelings without interruption, and wait for the emotional intensity to subside.

  • Create a Peaceful Atmosphere: Work together to foster an environment of peace in your home. This means setting aside time for meaningful conversations, engaging in shared activities, and prioritizing each other’s emotional well-being.

  • Redirect Energy Towards Cooperation: After a conflict, discuss ways to improve your communication moving forward. Focus on solutions rather than rehashing the problem. Ask questions like, “What can we do differently next time?” or “How can we support each other better?”

     

Day 5 - Feb 7, 2025

Unspoken & Unmet Needs Can Open the Door for Attack on Your Marriage

In marriage, we commit to giving our bodies to one another, as stated in 1 Corinthians 7:4: "The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife."  When a couple begins to withhold intimacy, often using sex as a form of punishment, they may inadvertently open the door to temptation and strain their relationship.

Withholding intimacy is akin to removing food from your home and then being upset when someone feels hungry. It creates a void that can lead to feelings of neglect and resentment.

It's important to clarify that this message is NOT a license for sexaul abuse. Instead, it emphasizes that giving yourselves to each other sexually can help close the door to temptation and strengthen your bond. Withholding intimacy rarely solves underlying issues; rather, it often creates a wedge between partners.

  • Please hear me, "This isn’t a license for abuse".  But when you give yourselves to each other sexually, you can close the door on the devil and temptations.


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Here Are 3 Direct Questions to Guide Your Discussion About Your Sex Life:

  1. What are your needs and desires when it comes to our sexual intimacy, and how can we work together to fulfill them?  This is about recognizing, NOT blaming.  
  2. Are there any areas where you feel unfulfilled or disconnected in our sex life?  Try to explain "Why" you feel that way.  
  3. How do you feel we can improve our communication about our sexual relationship?

We suggest that each spouse writes down their responses to these questions and then exchanges answers for the other spouse to read. This approach encourages more specific and thoughtful responses.

Remember: DO NOT interpret your spouse’s answers as an attack. Instead, view them as valuable insights that can strengthen your intimacy and keep the enemy from gaining a foothold in your marriage.

Aim to have this type of intimate conversation at least twice a year to foster a deeper connection.