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What Marriage Really Means

Day 1 - Nov 16, 2020

What is the meaning of marriage?  

If I were to ask you that question in person, would you have a good answer?  I've found that most married couples don't really know how to answer that question, but it is essential to a successful relationship.

  • In order to know what we are trying to accomplish in marriage—and what God wants to accomplish—you have to know its purpose.

There are three core things that happen when a man and woman get married. Protecting and preserving this core will make a strong marriage.

 



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What comes to your mind when asked,  "What is the Meaning of Marriage"?  Let's be even more direct.

  • What's the meaning of your marriage?
  • What's the purpose of your marriage?
  • Do you feel like you're fulfilling it?

Day 2 - Nov 17, 2020

There are three core areas where couples need to come in unity regarding their marriage. Protecting these core areas will make a strong marriage.

This 1st is "Financial Unity": Before marriage, a man and woman are seen as individuals by the state. They pay separate taxes and own separate property. But upon getting married, they become a single financial unit.  Almost to a rule, people who get married tend to be better off financially than single people. Marriage is the greatest wealth-producing entity on earth.

 

 



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But money can also cost you, especially if you're not in unity on how you use it.  The pursuit of money can also begin competing with time spent with your your spouse, family, and the Lord.  

Work I can be a big producer of stress, which means the pursuit of money can cost you your health.  Protect your financial core, but don't sacrifice your marriage or your health for money.

Have a conversation tonight with your spouse.  

  • Ask the question, "Do you think we're healthy in how we handle our finances"?

Day 3 - Nov 18, 2020

Meeting Needs: Once you get married, your spouse becomes your next of kin. You become accountable for each other until you die. This means you are now responsible for meeting each others' most important needs.   Remember, God created Adam, but Adam couldn't meet his own needs. That's why God then created Eve.

Put simply, we fit each other. We don't Complete each other but we do Compliment each other.

  • When God joins you, you become closer than any family you've ever had.  In this core category, marriage only works when it is a partnership.

Unhealthy marriages are those in which one spouse dominates another, or doesn't tolerate differences. Husbands and wives in healthy marriages celebrate their differences and work hard to meet each other's different needs.



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Think of a few areas where you and your spouse are very different.  

  • Now focus on one of those areas and think of a way you can celebrate that difference.  

Day 4 - Nov 19, 2020

Sexual Exclusivity: Becoming sexual partners is another core element of marriage.

In fact, it's the only exclusive realm of the marriage relationship. You spend money with other people. You talk to other people. You pray, worship, and work with other people. But you only have intimacy with your spouse.  You belong to each other and promise to be faithful to each other.

In 1 Corinthians 7, the Apostle Paul says when you get married, you do not have authority over your own body. Instead, your spouse has a right of use of your body.  It's "Use" not "Abuse"!  That means you are committed to fulfilling your spouse's sexual needs.



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One of the greatest things you can do to increase sexual intimacy with your spouse is, "Talk about It".  

  • Your marriage should be H.O.T.  Honest - Open - Transparent 
  • You need to be honest and open with each other in a transparent and safe environment.  

Day 5 - Nov 20, 2020

When the devil attacks marriages, he usually does it at one of these three core areas:  Finances, Family, or Sex.  

  • These form the purpose of your marriage, and they must be protected at all costs.
  • When one of these areas suffer, the entire marriage suffers.  

Protect these core elements and your marriage will improve every year. Neglect them or misuse them and your marriage will struggle. 



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So get your finances in order.  Set goals, and make sure you're both on the same page.

Focus not on meeting your own needs, but on meeting the needs of your spouse—whether those needs are about companionship, communication, or sex.  

Keep your core areas strong, and you'll discover that your marriage is strong, too.