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Love that Lasts a Lifetime

Day 1 - Jun 15, 2020

Everyone wants a love that lasts a lifetime.  

A recent study found that 93 percent of Americans say they dream of a lasting, stable marriage relationship.  

  • Yet, instead of lifelong love, they’re finding disappointment and heartache.  
  • People haven’t lost the dream for marriage. They’ve just lost the hope.  
  • That’s because they have the wrong mentality.  They see marriage as a sprint, but in reality, it’s a marathon.  


Take Action

Do you feel like the passion is gone in your marriage?  If so, why do you feel that way?  You're answering to yourself so be honest.  

  • Are you waiting on your spouse to do or say something?  
  • What about you?  What have you said or done in the last week for your marriage that isn’t a 50/50 deal?  
  • Stop waiting?  Go ahead and give 100% in some small way without expecting anything in return.  Do it simply because you love your spouse.  

Day 2 - Jun 16, 2020

Running fast feels good.  Sprinting is fun, just ask any kid!  It’s fun to watch too!  My favorite Olympic event is still the 100-meter dash.  It requires maximum effort, but it doesn’t last long.   Sprints are short because no one can sustain that kind of effort for very long.  They burn out too quickly.

A lot of people get married in a sprint.  They meet someone and they are overcome with emotions.  

  • They start dating.  
  • They fall in love.  
  • They get engaged.  
  • They get married, and everything is wonderful.  

In these moments, sexual attraction and passion are their source of energy.  It burns hot.  It’s exhilarating and fun, but it doesn’t last.  Eventually, they run out of energy.  It might be during the first year of marriage.  It might be during the tenth year.  The passion fades and the relationship hits a wall.  If they aren’t prepared for it, their marriage can fall apart.



Take Action

A sprint is fast and furious.  But a strong marriage isn't about a fast event, it's about being in the moments.  If you don't slow down you will miss the moments.  

  • Take a moment and slow down.  Think ahead about this week and weekend.  Begin preparing now for a fun activity with you and your spouse.  
  • Don’t think MONEY!  It doesn’t have to be expensive to be meaningful.  
  • Having a Date Night isn't a Luxury - It's a Necessity!!!
  • Its about connecting!
  • Stop sprinting and take a walk, a drive, sit on a bench in your spouse’s favorite spot.  Ask your spouse what’s on their heart and mind.  Don’t make them share, but be ready to truly listen. Your goal isn’t to fix anything. It’s to listen!

Day 3 - Jun 17, 2020

The big question in marriage isn’t "How can we keep this passion going today?"  It’s..."How can we keep this passion burning for 60 years?" 

That requires a marathon mentality rather than a sprint mentality.  A marathon requires a similar amount of effort.  But instead of burning it all at once, like rocket fuel, it focuses on endurance.  You keep moving forward, step after step and year after year.

Marathoners pay very close attention to things like nutrition and hydration.  They focus on it leading up to a race and during the race itself.  Their performance depends on it.  Fuel is vital to a successful marathon.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tpLJqVzjoYA   The Significance of Dating clip by Jimmy & Karen Evans



Take Action

What type of Fuel are you adding to your marriage?  

  • Do you add fuel daily, weekly, monthly?  
  • What are you doing to serve your spouse?  

Do you still have a regular date night?  Date nights should never be about the $, but about the connection.  
Date night is a Necessity, not a Luxury!  If you don’t have plans for this weekend, then begin planning now.  

Day 4 - Jun 18, 2020

A marathon in marriage also thinks about the fuel: What is the source of my love? 

The deepest source of love isn’t sexual attraction.  It’s not your emotions because feelings change. Your source of love shouldn’t be your spouse, either, because people fail us.  They’ll let us down.  

  • The deepest and most powerful source of love is God in whom His love lasts for eternity.  


Take Action

Are you allowing the Lord to be at the center of your life and marriage?  If not, Why?  Is it a lack of trust? 

Let Him reveal the things that are trying to come in between you and Him.  Choose to structure your day in a way that will help you break habits that steal your time.  

Ask your spouse to help you stay accountable as you help them stay accountable as well.  Marriage is a team effort of support for one another as you both trust in God.  

 

Day 5 - Jun 19, 2020

We must trust God to meet our deepest needs.  We must depend on Him to be our fuel.  

People can break our hearts, but the love of God endures forever.  When most couples get married, they’re sprinting.  When the passion begins to fade, many have thoughts of divorce.  It isn’t until we learn to draw from a deeper source, the love of God, to realize that He can heal your marriage.  

When you turn your marriage into a marathon instead of a sprint, your marriage will keep running strong.  With God fueling your marriage, it can last a lifetime.



Take Action

Don’t allow your marriage to run on empty, and don’t wait for your spouse to add fuel.  You do it!  

God has a plan for you and your Marriage.  

  • Ask Him to show you how you can be a better spouse.  
  • Be ready to write a few things down.  
  • Now, pick one thing on the list He gave you, and work on it this weekend.