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Are You and Your Spouse Best Friends?

Day 1 - Jun 22, 2020

Good friends are highly involved each other's lives.

They will intentionality carve out time in their schedules to be together.  Even just to have fun. They are there for each other when help is needed and share and show interest in each other's interests.  The best marriages are built on a foundation of friendship.

  • In fact, friendship should be present in a relationship before anything romantic happens.  

Take Action

Friends, especially best friends, build one another up.   

  • Small things can carry a great deal of weight when done right.
  • Call or text your spouse within the hour about one character trait you really appreciate about them.??????????????
  • Leave a note for them to find tomorrow morning.  

Day 2 - Jun 23, 2020

The first foundation of friendship in marriage is faithfulness.

You can’t just be your spouse’s friend when you want to be or when it’s convenient.

  • Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” In other words, friendship is mostly developed or lost during hard times.
  • Times of adversity are when your friendship has the opportunity to increase the most. That’s when we have to pay the most attention. If we make a mistake, those are the times when we have to be careful to go back and make it right.

Take Action

Have you been attentive to your spouse? Are you sure?

When the time is right ask your spouse, “Have I been there for you the way I should?    

  • Listen to their words but try to hear their heart.
  • Don't be quick to respond with answers but rather ask more questions.
  • Be ready to ask: 
  • 1) For forgiveness or, 2) What can I can do for you?”

Day 3 - Jun 24, 2020

The second foundation of friendship is believing in each other.

You’ll never be friends with someone who doesn’t believe in you. That’s why God uses our friendship with our spouse to bring each other to our full potential.

Every husband partners with God to bring his wife to her full potential. Every wife is God’s partner to help bring her husband to his potential. Your role as spouses is to believe in each other and help each other become what God has created you to be.

Take Action

Check your words!  Have you been an encouragement to your spouse?   Or, are you putting them down?

Look your spouse in the eyes and compliment them on something they did well or made a great effort to do.  

  • Go ahead, go out of your way and just say it, you'll be glad you did.  


Day 4 - Jun 25, 2020

The third foundation of friendship is embracing each other’s differences.

If you have a friend who constantly criticizes you and rejects your differences, you won’t remain friends for long. A lot of people want to marry someone who is just like them, but it’s more important for a husband and wife to be compatible.

Instead of training your spouse to become more like you, celebrate the ways that you’re different.

  • You might say:  “I’m so glad we’re together, God put us together because we fit perfectly. You fill in all of my weaknesses.”

Take Action

Stop trying to mold your spouse into a unrealistic perfect vision you've built up in your mind.

  • Thank the Lord for your differences and embrace your spouse’s strengths. Together, you’re even better!
  • Let your spouse know how much you appreciate them.  Tell them & show it!

Day 5 - Jun 26, 2020

Testimony from Pastor Jimmy Evans: Karen and I are best friends today, but there was a period in our marriage where we weren’t friends at all and we almost divorced. After God began to heal us, we started MarriageToday to make sure others had the tools to build healthy marriages according to God’s plan.

In the process, we’ve seen so many marriages find hope and healing, like that of Jo Anna, who attended one of our XO conferences with her husband: "We were on the verge of divorce but God is so amazing. He restored our marriage and gave me my sanity back. I suffered with so many insecurities and hurts but with these skills that we learned from Pastor Jimmy, we are on a different path with our Lord and Savior. I fell in love with God and my husband on a much deeper level."  

Take Action

Don't wait until your marriage is hurting to seek help.  Invest into your marriage! 

  • Jimmy Evans resources are a great start for you.  Buy a book, listen online, attend an event, etc...whatever you choose, try doing it together.
  • Don’t do anything with the mindset of hoping to change your spouse.
  • Change yourself and love your spouse. Let the Lord go to work on them.