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Are You and Your Spouse Best Friends?

Day 1 - Mar 23, 2026

The Power of Friendship in Marriage

Great friends are deeply involved in each other’s lives, and this is especially true for married couples! There’s a big difference between merely sharing a home and truly engaging with one another. When you and your spouse are best friends, you intentionally carve out time in your busy schedules to connect and have fun together. You prioritize that time and protect it—because it matters!

Best friends are there for each other when help is needed, and they genuinely share and show interest in each other’s passions.

  • The best marriages are built on a solid foundation of friendship.
  • In fact, friendship should be at the heart of your relationship before anything romantic comes into play.
  • Sure, physical attraction is important, and it’s great to look your best, but that’s just the susurface.
  • For your relationship to truly thrive, you need to nurture a deep friendship.


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So, how do you know if you’re best friends?

Best friends uplift one another, and it’s about more than just knowing facts about each other.

Here’s a quick test:

  • Do you look forward to hanging out because you genuinely enjoy each other’s company?
  • Do you find yourself wanting to learn more about your spouse?
  • Do you love doing things together and for each other?

Remember, small gestures can have a big impact! Why not text or call your spouse within the hour to share one character trait you appreciate about them? Or leave a sweet note for them to discover later.

As Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NLT) reminds us, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help.”

Answer these Questions:

  1. What’s one activity you enjoy with your spouse that you could do together more often?
  2. How can you show interest in your spouse's hobbies or passions in a way that brings you closer?

Day 2 - Mar 24, 2026

The first foundation of friendship in marriage is Faithfulness.

You can’t just be your spouse’s friend when it’s convenient or when you feel like it.

Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

  • In other words, real friendship is often built—or broken—during hard times.

Adversity is where friendship grows the most. It’s also when we have to be extra careful. If you make a mistake, that’s the moment to go back and make it right.



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Have you been attentive to your spouse? Are you sure?  How do you know?

  • And if your spouse were asked the same question—what would they say?

When the time is right, ask your spouse: “Have I been there for you the way I should?”

Then pause. Listen.

  • Be patient while hearing their words—and try to hear what’s happening in their heart too.

Don’t rush to give answers. Ask more questions. Be ready with questions like:

  1. What can I do for you?
  2. You may need to start with asking for forgiveness!